Faloune & Gerri-Lynn
Smith
Atlanta, Ga.
Congratulations, I am always
fascinated by how relationships start. So, where did you meet and what were the
initial attractions? We
met through a mutual friend and….
GerriLynn: The first
thing I noticed was her almond shaped brown eyes.Faloune: I noticed her beautiful smile and to this day it is one of the things I love about her.
You have been
together for years. First, Congratulations. What advice would you give to other
couples and why? Both: There is no "I quit", no matter
how hard/bumpy/unpleasant/uncomfortable the road may get; it’s you and her
together... Figure it out. Stay in the
present, and make time for one another,
What made you know
that it was time to get married and how will being married change your
relationship? Both: For us, our wedding
ceremony was an outward declaration to the world of our love and commitment to
each other, and to finally join our families and have them witness our love solidified.
Getting together
is easy. Staying together is difficult. You have weathered many transitions and
storms? How did you manage and what was the hardest part?
Both: Pray together,
know when to call a time-out and revisit the subject at a later time. The
hardest part is being interested in things that don't interest me naturally,
but liking them and eventually loving them too because she loves them and I
love her.
How do you deal with and face
challenges (family acceptance, money differences, etc.) that might come up in
your relationship? Both: We
talk/write them out and come to a mutual agreement-- together.
I know faith is important to both of
you. How do you practice your faith as a couple and what role does spirituality
play in your relationship? Both:
Faith is a huge part of our relationship. We were baptized together on Easter
Sunday 2007, and we walk our spiritual journey together. We listen to spiritual
messages on our daily commute to work in order to ensure that we are
spiritually armed and ready to face any challenges that the day may bring.
After so many years, how do you keep
the fires burning? What role does sensuality play in your relationship? Both: We make sure we have set date
nights and always have an activity planned that pertains to quality time and a
common interest for us.
Every relationship develops
relationship "rules” that support your union? What are your spoken and
unspoken rules? And how did those rules form? Both: Absolutely NO going to bed hungry or
mad ‐‐‐ one leads to the other.
No silent
treatments -- use your words. Take a moment but use your words.
No
disrespectful, "slang" talk; we are NOT "home girls.”
Always say
"I love you" before parting; you might not get the chance to do so
again.They (rules) just naturally formed the more we grew into our individual selves and our relationship.
Every relationship challenges us in
different way. What did you have to learn and un¬ learn to love her fully? GerriLynn: I had to learn that I am not the
most important person in the world. Faloune:
I had to learn that it is not always about who is right, it is about being
respectful and honoring my love for her.
GerriLynn: To unlearn -- not to belittle and
disrespect her when I get angry or if my feelings are hurt. Faloune: To unlearn -- not to be afraid of her
love and that it is in fact genuine, she won’t hurt me.
What has your relationship taught you
most about yourself? And her? GerriLynn: That I deserve to have a love like this and she makes me
love her more and more each day. Faloune:
That with God and her support I can do ANYTHING.... she is the very best person
I know and I am blessed to have her as a friend, lover, comedian and wife.
It was such an honor officiating your
wedding. When you think of your wedding day, what will you remember the most? Both: The moment that I saw her as I
walked down the aisle and our eyes met and time stopped... we only saw each
other.
What will be your legacy as a couple?
Both: Love hard,
laugh harder, and take care of each other and God will take care of you both.
We thank you for sharing your love with us at Create Love! Your story will encourage, inspire and uplift other couples. We wish you continued success and happiness.www.createloveforwomen.com
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