Communication is the Key

Communication is a key component for the success of any relationship.  It is no different for women who love women.  To that same end, we also face the same challenges in communicating effectively: different communication styles, misunderstanding intentions, fear of abandonment, and so much more.  When we are in a challenging situation, we are hit with a wave of emotions that swirl around in the pit of our stomachs.  It can be difficult to communicate a feeling that you haven't fully assessed for yourself yet.  

So here's a tip that can be very useful in those situations: When you are overcome with feelings, give yourself a timeout. Turn to your partner and say, "I am feeling a lot right now...I need a few minutes to be with myself".  Remove yourself from the situation.  Before doing so, assure your partner that this is a timeout and that you will resume the conversation when you are able to do so clearly. Now, don't use that as an excuse to avoid the situation...that will only create more problems and it is never a great long term solution.

REMEMBER...your partner should not be expected to read your mind even if you have been together for a long time.  Communicating and using your own words to express your emotions is the gateway to a deep, meaningful connection with your sweetie!    

 Imani Evans